LOW SELF ESTEEM
02:40 Hi guys,
Hope your weekend was great, welcome to a new week,
We would be discussing an important topic today and I humbly crave your indulgence to read this till the end, comment and feel free to ask any questions.
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Let's get started, the word esteem means to regard someone or something with respect, to place value on something or someone. Talking about self esteem, it's something personal, something you do for yourself. Friends, family or strangers may appreciate and respect you but if there is no self respect, if you don’t place value on yourself, all the praise and respect from others won't mean much. People might respect you today but won't tomorrow, so if you live on what people say about you or to you, you would be living your life with fluctuating feelings and emotional imbalance. A neighbor or colleague’s unfriendly comment on your hair, complexion, dress sense, accent, stature, faith, etc might just ruin your day if you don’t have self respect. Low self esteem is when one has very little or no respect for himself or herself or when you have a negative opinion about yourself. This can be caused due to several reasons, some of which are:
- Inability to please or meet up with standard of parents, guardians or older siblings
- failure to meet up with standard from peers
- Being the odd one out at home, school or working place due to skin color, hair, faith, etc
- Absence of praise, love and affection from family, friends and loved ones
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Whatever might be the cause of low self esteem in your life, you need to identity and face it because living with it can cause mental harm and lead to greater problems such as anger, depression, anxiety and bad habits such as smoking and drinking.
Ways to boost self esteem
- Respect yourself the way you are: You might not be perfect now (no one is anyway), you might be too fat, too thin, too clumsy, too black, too white, too whatever, it doesn't really matter. You need to love and respect yourself exactly the way you are. When you respect and place value on yourself, the negative things people say about you or to you won't make much sense or mean so much anymore.
- Shun bad habits: The negative remark or comments that lowers your self esteem can be used positively to boost your esteem. Instead of thinking and sulking all day because some one called you 'fat', ask yourself some questions like "why am I this fat, what can I do to shed off some weight, am I being too lazy to workout, can't I reduce my food intake, I'd be prettier and healthier if I lose some weight right?" These questions would motivate you to do what you have to do. When you answer these questions, you would be more interested in trying to stop the bad habits and replace them with good ones, you would spend the time usually spent on thinking about what people say on exercising. Before long, those negative voices would fade away, you would be getting positive results and comments and more importantly, you would become a better person.
- Develop your talent: Everyone is exceptionally good at something. find out what you are good at, that thing you enjoy doing, that craft that when you see others do, you feel you can do better than them. Pick up that talent, that skill, don't be scared of sharing your talent with the world around you. You'd get good compliments from people and this can help boost your confidence.
- Surround yourself with the right people: Don't move around with peers that don't believe in you, people that tell you 'you are worthless and good for nothing'. Instead associate with friends that love, support and encourage you. Their love and support would make you feel valuable.
- Don't take crap from anybody and learn to say NO when you are not comfortable with some requests.
- Take good care of yourself, remember your body is God's temple. Observe proper hygiene, get rid of the bad odors, wear good and clean clothes, take care of your skin and hair, walk, talk and act with confidence.
- Lastly, take your cares and worries to God, let Him know exactly how you feel and ask Him to help you through it.
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